Random Ramblings: Am I a Blogger or a Reviewer?

Posted March 24, 2017 by StaceyisSassy in Book Talk, Random Ramblings / 8 Comments


Am I a Blogger or a Reviewer?


Do I even want to be a Blogger

or a Reviewer anymore?


Why is blogging not fun anymore?


Of late, I’ve been asking myself this question more and more.  There is part of me that has lost the enjoyment of sharing my opinions and thoughts.  Blogging for me didn’t start out about how many followers I had or likes on a post.  I just liked getting my thoughts and feelings down.  If someone did like it and left me a comment, I was stoked and felt a little chuffed that I caused a reaction.  Somehow, though, blogging turned into me caring about numbers.  Of late, my followers have gone down.  Have I offended a reader?  Is it because a fellow blogger didn’t want to waste their time following my blog because I didn’t go and like every post they’ve written?  Maybe it’s because I haven’t done any giveaways for awhile?

Why am I even considering this?

Why should I care?

Who am I writing for?

When and why did I allow blogging to become an unpaid job that stressed me out?

I think I’m going to remove my like button from posts.  I write posts because I have something to say, not to have someone hit a button on the bottom of my post (that they may or may not have even read).  I need to get back to making outfits on Polyvore, talking food, sharing and chatting about family (drama) and having fun with my blogging.

I think it’s safe to say that I’m never going to be the next blogging giant because I don’t want to put in the effort.  I don’t have time to network or make my posts SEO perfect. That’s why I use SMR Digital as my SEO agency for example. I just want to share my thoughts and opinion about stuff.



(Yes, I’m talking to myself)


I don’t make it a secret that I love to read and review romance.  The problem became that the blog became JUST about book reviews.  I received more and more request to review stories and I hated to say no.  So I said yes more than no and my schedule was chockablock full.  Now, I’m at a crossroad…


In the last week alone, I have only finished one book of the 5 that I started.  With one book, I didn’t mesh with the characters.   Two of the books I found the hero to be too wishy-washy.  Another, the hero was a jerk but I stopped because the heroine was an IDIOT.  The last was because I was extremely hormonal and there was too much violence and hate that by 75% I just couldn’t take anymore.

At another time and another place, I may have given those books 4 or 5 stars but at that moment I was frustrated, disappointed and genuinely grieved.

I hate not finishing books but then again why would I keep reading something that I’m not enjoying.  When you start watching a new TV show and you’re not enjoying it, do you keep going or cut your losses and change channel?  For me, it depends on a few things.  Does it have potential?  Are the characters likeable?  Is the storyline appealing?

Well, it’s exactly the same.  If a hero spends the first quarter of the book talking about his hook-ups and plotting an evil plan to destroy the heroine’s life…I’m not staying around for that one.

If at any time I feel like the hero is weak or indecisive…that’s not going to appeal to me.

Ok…so I accept all these requests to review and I start the story and it’s not working for me.

What should I do?

How do I tell an author (who may also be a virtual “friend”) that their story isn’t working for me?  At times, I’ve been blunt and outlined my issues.  I always regret it.  Authors work bloody hard to get the words down and I hate upsetting them.  I know I would be devastated if someone read my work and picked it apart.

I would love to wipe it from my Goodreads profile and keep my dislike to myself.  To me, that would be a heck of a lot easier.  BUT…the authors ask for their reviews and want to know why it wasn’t posted on release day.  Fellow readers want to know why I didn’t review something I started.  I even have people questioning how, why and what made me stop.

Sometimes, I write a DNF (did not finish) review.  I always try to make it clear that these are my thoughts alone and that they should definitely check out other reviews.  I normally don’t rate a DNF because obviously, I didn’t read the whole thing.  Sometimes, I do.  In one case I actually rated it and then had someone question how I could like (3 stars) a book I did not finish.  Ummm…well because that’s how I felt.

Should I have to justify myself?


I’m sorry…am I getting paid for my opinion?


Is my opinion going to change the world?


Sassy, I think you need a chill pill…or a glass of wine and TRY to remember that blogging and reviewing SHOULD BE FUN!!!


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8 responses to “Random Ramblings: Am I a Blogger or a Reviewer?

  1. I hear you. I think we place too much emphasis on “likes”. Blogging isn’t a business for me, it’s a hobby. Concentrating on popularity takes away from the joy of just reading and sharing my opinion. If only one person reads a review and it helps them decide whether or not to buy a book, I count it as a win.

    • My thoughts exactly. I think authors (some definitely not all) and promo companies put stress on us because they make it our job to sell the story. We can only sell it if we liked it. I will never lie and I refuse to “sell”something I won’t stand behind. Time for this to become fun again. Thanks for commenting my lovely, it means a lot to me. 😀❤💐

  2. Hi, Stacey: I hope you keep blogging, for I love your Rambling posts so much.
    As far as reviews go, though, I really, really, really wish that people would understand that reviews are supposedly a, you know, review of a book and NOT a promo of the book. Yet most authors see it as just that, and most authors become quite miffed if positive reviews are not posted, even if their book has numerous flaws (and, trust me, just as there are no perfect people, there are also no perfect books).
    I sometimes review books for our local paper and I can tell you that I’ve actually lost Facebook friends over comments I’ve made in a very, very glowing review that had two sentences of minor criticism. In fact, two casual friends even snubbed me at the gym after one review came out.
    It’s disheartening that authors don’t acknowledge the hard work that goes behind each review. I mean, reviewers have to read a whole entire book, and often not a book of their choosing, and make notes, and then write a comprehensive summary noting the plotting and character development, etc. and do so in a gracious and yet authoritative manner, with a keen ear for writing mechanics.
    So my advice? Scrap the reviews for a bit and read for enjoyment, blog when you want and feel like and enjoy it. Enjoy family time, and be selfish and do what you want to do, and luxuriate in that, okay? Big, big hugs, and take care.

    • ❤❤❤ Thank you so much. I needed to read that. I’m so sorry that you went through all that. I’m lucky enough that I only have to virtually deal with disgruntled authors and readers. Not sure if I could handle it face to face. I’m going to put my priorities right and only do what makes me happy. Review and blogging will be fun again…I’m determined 😀😘❤💐

  3. Brilliant post, Stacey! If blogging is no longer fun or too stressful, it’s definitely time to re-evaluate. Reading and reviewing should be fun. It should not feel like an unpaid occupation. I love your thoughtful and thought-provoking posts and certainly understand the dilemma. You have to do what’s right for you. ❤❤

    • Thanks sweetheart. Sometimes I need to remind myself to have fun with this. Getting my thoughts down helps me to change my path and tweak it to suit me best. I really appreciate your comment, again thanks. 😀❤💐

  4. I think you are doing a great job and so enjoy reading your reviews. I love reading myself, literature used to be my favourite subject in school and uni and always read for pleasure, not because it was compulsory. Although now l hardly have any time to finish a book, between my newborn and cheecky monkey toddler, never-ending housework and sleepless nights, l’m surprised l’m still alive haha
    I too used to get upset about people unsubscribing from my blog and low number in daily views, especially that l put lots of effort in late pregnancy to get posts scheduled for times like now when spare time is non-existent. But then l thought to myself that l love cooking, and should not let blogging ruin my mood, l have way better things to do. I still dream of having a successful food blog so l can make it a full-time job, but l guess for now l’m happy with at least 2 hours of uninterrupted sleep lol Xx

    • I remember those days. It’s not easy handling everything but it sounds like you’re coping as well as expected. It’s always best to find a little time for your happiness and if that’s cooking or doing your food blog…do it!! Thank you so much for commenting, I really appreciate it. 😀❤💐

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