I read a book today…let’s talk about SEX
Let’s talk about sex, baby (sing it)
Let’s talk about you and me (sing it, sing it)
Let’s talk about all the good things
And the bad things that may be
Let’s talk about sex (come on)
Let’s talk about sex (do it)
Let’s talk about sex (uh-huh)
Let’s talk about sex
Let’s Talk About Sex – Salt-N-Pepa
I read a book today and I thought about sex. I’ve been a Romance Book Blogger for a little while now and I actually tell people I read and review romance because I love it. At first, there was a little hesitation in owning up to it. There is a multitude of reasons why, but I think the first thing A LOT of people think when someone admits to reading romance is …SEX. Women don’t want to admit they like it. Men like to think that we read it because we want more SEX than we’re letting on. (I’m making huge generalisations here) It’s a lot more than that but I think SEX is one of the reasons for the stigma attached to reading romance.
I’ve read books with sex scenes in them and ones without. There have been good and bad ones in both. I will admit that my biggest peeve and it drives me CRAZY, is when an author gets you all heated up, tense and excited, then slams the door in your face. The old…behind closed door sexy times. How am I supposed to believe in their connection? You can’t just tell me, you have to show me. For me, a romance story that I’m expected to believe has a HappyEveryAfter, has to be more than just a smile, some sweet talk and a date here and there. I need to see that they can connect. I need to see they can sail a rough ocean. I want to believe they have each other’s backs in good times and bad. Sex is just a wee bit of the story and it’s the whole package I’m looking for.
Saying that I don’t read romance for the sex. I want the hearts a flutter, belly swirls and giddy feelings. I need to see the fighting outside forces with your partner at your side. I love the HEA or the happy for now with the potential for HEA. For me, there is NOTHING better than finishing a book on a high. Romance does it for me.
There are a few authors I can name off the top of my head who give me EXACTLY what I like in the sexy times. Kristen Ashley, Jill Shalvis and I’m about to add Melanie Harlow to the list. These are not the only authors who write fantastic sex scenes but in these three, I’m amazed at how comfortable I feel reading them. I’m not embarrassed reading them. I don’t scrunch up my face or get squicked out. I’m also not having to put my kindle down to get pen and paper, calculator and ruler, trying to work out the angle of the dangle determining how the heck do you do that. It’s not always straight and it’s not always kinky. They manage to make it extremely hot, and, for want of a better word, normal. Well, to me it’s normal.
So, let’s talk about SEX…
Do you think romance books need sex scenes?
Do you think non-romance readers think we read romance just for the sex scenes?
Do you have a favourite author for sexy times?
I read a book today…and I thought about sex.